This week we have seen the beginning of a wave of same sex marriages in California. The couples who appear in the news all seem to have been together in a committed relationship for a long time, often for decades. But a Los Angeles Times article explains that the couples that appear in the public eye have been carefully chosen. For example, at 5:01 p.m. on Monday San Francisco mayor Gavin Newsom officiated at the wedding of two women who had been together for over 50 years. The LA Times article comments:

The Martin-Lyon wedding on Monday, like other ceremonies held before today’s official launch of same-sex marriage, was strictly orchestrated. Martin and Lyon were married in a private ceremony in Newsom’s City Hall office, with only two news agencies — the Associated Press and the hometown San Francisco Chronicle — allowed to attend.

Many of the other early weddings in the state were also of long-term couples who could have been selected by central casting to appear both nonthreatening and mainstream. In many cases, news releases were issued and the media invited.

Gay activists have their eyes on the November vote on a state constitutional amendment defining marriage as between a man and a woman. They have been advising couples to appear as mainstream as possible, knowing that any outrageous behavior now would hurt their cause. If the measure fails, expect to see plenty of outrageous celebrating in November.

Based on what we see in the media we are lead to believe that gay couples are a lot like heterosexual couples, and that after waiting a lifetime they should have every right to be married. But scientific studies of gay couples provide picture very different than the TV images of happy couples in long term relationships. Studies have consistently shown that long term and monogamous relationships among homosexuals are extremely rare. For example,

• Only 8% of homosexual men and 7% of homosexual women have ever had relationships that lasted more then three years.
• 74% of male homosexuals reported having over 100 sexual partners during their lifetime, 41% more than 500 partners and 28% more than 1000 partners! Homosexual women reported much smaller numbers, with 60% reporting fewer than 10 lifetime partners.
• For the previous year, 55% of male homosexuals reported 20 or more partners and 30% reported 50 or more. (Yes, that is in a single year!)
• By comparison, a major study of sexual behavior in the general population revealed that in the previous year only 17% of men and 10% of women had had more than one sexual partner.

(These statistics are from Straight & Narrow? by Thomas E. Schmidt. Naturally, the results of different studies vary somewhat, but the general picture is quite clear. The book includes extensive footnotes that document references to the original studies so that you are able to check them out for yourself.)

The truth is out there for those who are willing to look for it. The reality of homosexual relationships is very different from the image portrayed in the media.